Time, as general concept, tends to take a bad wrap. It is literally the agonizingly slow and tortuous tick tock that counts down the seconds to our inevitable biological expiration date. Right? Wrong!
Ever notice how time moves slowly, nearly stops during an intense or fearful encounter, or how time seems to fly when you’re enjoying yourself? According to Einstein’s theory of relativity, time is not so strictly rigid and unyielding, but in collusion and continuum with space, can morph and bend to fit someone’s position in said continuum. This means that we have the ability to manipulate time. We are no longer drone slaves to the tick tock of passing time!
I felt the pull of time bearing down on me and bending me to it’s cosmic will as I blindly stalked the beaten path of those “traditional” students that graduated from high school with honors and were accepted early to their school of choice. I thought I would excel in college and move on with my perfect Stepford life as prophesized in every afterschool special I had ever seen. When I faltered and had to withdraw from school in the second semester, I considered it an epic failure. I let the expectations of society measure my performance and admittedly, I wallowed in self-pity for a bit.
Then I woke up. I realized that I had been trying to cookie cut myself, trimming away those parts of me that make me unique, all to fit some generic mass-produced factory molding of life. I have news for everyone; life is not one-size-fits-all! We all reach our goals in our own time. If I could have given myself one piece of advice early on, I would have told a younger me to slow down and stop competing with ALL the others around me. Capitalistic America breeds that competitive nature into us all. We have an innate need to size up the accomplishments of our neighbors to determine our place in the batting order. Fight this urge to measure your own accomplishments against everyone else’s feats. As you plan your own timeline and you try to minimize the distance to whatever goal, also consider what you will sacrifice along the way and it’s worth in the scheme of life.
No one else was dealt the same hand of cards as you; or will have to make the same choices. You will have some with similar advantages or disparities compared to others, but usually something sets you apart from the pack. The trick is to use that unique set of advantages and strengths you have collected and bend your timeline to fit your will so that time fits into your mold of life rather than the alternative. If you are overwhelmed, consider taking more time to complete a task…that’s right…on purpose. We hear that proverb all the time, “it’s about the journey, not the destination.” Only you can prioritize tasks and design your plans to fit the needs of your individualized path.
Stop looking back and living in the past. Stop living for a tomorrow that may never come. Live in the present, and cherish the moments in which you are living. Make time count, and bend time to your will. And by all means…take YOUR time!